Marriage- To honor, cherish, and trust

Many people put emphasis on getting married. You read in books that in order to live the fairy tale, marriage is required to be happily ever after. I think because of this people forget the main reason behind marriage. The whole death to you part, to honor, cherish, yea all that jazz.

Many women have a problem with the honor part of their vow and completely forget that it was said. I don't understand why some women have a problem with honoring their husbands. I was out to eat with a friend of mine, and her friend, and her friend got a call from her husband, she looks at me and says, "Don't be looking at me like that, he don't have me in check he probably calling because the kids want to talk to me." Now mind you I don't know this chick, but the fact that she thought she had to make a big deal about telling me her husband ain't in control bothered me. I told her that my husband has the right to check me when he sees fit. At the end of the day that man is who takes care of me and if he wants to call and check me Imma answer and don't owe nobody an explanation of why I did so.

The problem with women is that we are sometimes to independent. We want someone to take care of us, but then we want to still be in charge. You can't have both ladies. If you don't feel like you can't let your guard down enough to be taken care of, that means you haven't met the right man. Before meeting my husband, I always had a backup, in case the current man and situation didn't work out. I never in any previous relationships felt like I could depend on anyone to take care of what needed to be done. If that is what you feel, than boo that dude may not be the man for you. As a woman in a relationship that man should be in control and you should allow him to do so. If you feel he won't steer you in the right direction and you can't honor and trust his decisions, then why are you wasting your time. Until you can honor, cherish, and trust that man continue to date and not marry as our divorce rate is high enough! Too be continued.....