Finances in Dating

There was a conversation that has been had by me and some friends where there was a multitude of opinions. The question was, is it ok for the man to use a coupon on the first date? Many had the perspective that this would indicate he is cheap and if you can't afford the date then you should lower the expectations or not go out at all. Some people feel that it's not a big deal and it’s a sign of maturity and frugalness.

In dating it is important that each individual is able to hold their own. If you want to take someone on a date and use a coupon, make sure she a coupon type of chick. It is not in your best interest to invite the high class girl whose attire down to her shoes is more than the meal you plan to present. Do not intend on taken a Red Lobster kind of girl to an Applebee’s kind of establishment and assume she will be ok with it.

Are finances important when dating? ABSOLUTELY!!!!! It is important during dating that you understand your audience and offer a performance worth applauding. Every woman wants to feel secure and confident that in a situation her man can handle it and take care of business. The strongest woman that is a go getter and conquers the world on her own merit still wants someone who can take care of her. Knowing your audience means you understand the woman you are keeping, understanding what she wants and whether you will be able to continue to provide it. In a relationship there are shared responsibilities and both should be able to lay out the red carpet in gift giving, dinner, birthdays and all other exciting reason within a relationship to spend money. Don't start out as a Red Lobster kind of man and lower the standards to Denny’s because you started out stronger than you were able to finish. Don't play games and start out with Denny’s when you know you’re a Red Lobster providing man. The world of technology allows individuals the ability to get to know you by phone, bbm, instant messaging, Skype, Facebook, twitter, heck even MySpace. Get to know your opponent because that is how you understand their needs and are able to deliver on the first date, or cut your losses before wasting your Red Lobster or Denny’s money!

The moral of the story: Broke ain't cute, using a coupon is alright if your audience is receiving of such an act, and understanding your opponent will alleviate the complications and financial issues.