Half on a Baby

So my husband and I were discussing going half on a baby. We have been married almost two years, and have 3 children between the two of us without one together. Ours kids are all under the age of 5, so they are still pretty young, and still expensive. Well when aren't they expensive?! So in this discussion we were going through the pros and cons of having children right now and things that we would have to give up to have another baby.

Is this something that everyone does before deciding to have another baby, or your first for that matter? Is this a discussion your having with your husband, or just that live in boyfriend? Now don't get me wrong, I ain't judging, obviously because I had a son before becoming a wife, but slip up once shame on us, slip up twice shame on me. I think when considering to have children, this should a big deal and discussion.

What will you have to give up to have another baby? Will you take away from what your current kids have, or you have to ability to provide easily? Can you still adequately provide for your family and current lifestyle by adding another baby in the mix? These are all things that should be discussed. Can you afford another kid and still be able to eat, will you have to quit your job because you can't afford daycare? Can you afford that milk if WIC ain't available? Will you be birthing yet another fatherless child? We know the saying that it takes a Village to raise a child, but hell nowadays you barely got two parent homes.

If you can not financially provide for that child in such a manner that they are not comfortable you probably shouldn't be having more kids. Are you still selfish and want to hit the club or enjoy vacationing? I mean you have a right to be selfish, but keep your selfish legs closed if you not ready to give up your life and wants for the needs of your child/children. If you can't afford these kids without some form of assistance, well um, you probably should keep your legs closed too. The system is not meant to pay for kids you can't afford, its meant to pay for circumstance unpreventable. Legs opening and closing is a choice of which can be prevented. If you don't even have health insurance for yourself, why should kids be a thought. You can't even cough in good conscious so what makes you think the economy can afford you birthing someone else who we have no choice but to care for.

These are all things that are food for thought. This Public Announcement being brought to you by Ladiesm's is just saying: If you ain't got it, what makes you think I want to give up some of my check to give it to you. Marinate on that!